Last night my husband and I finished the second season of Bridgerton. Have you seen it? If so, what did you think?

I have an observation about it that I want to share (and don’t worry, no spoilers involved!).

The two main characters in this second season struggle with feeling as though they have the weight of their family’s future on their shoulders and as though they can’t ask anyone else for support. Because of their inability to communicate with others, they suffer (and so do their families).

Now, Bridgerton is completely fictional and fairytale-esque, but I think it makes an important commentary here.

As a society, in general, we really struggle to ask for support. We often stigmatize it, looking down on it as though it makes us weak and ill-able to manage our own affairs and independence. But the reality is it’s completely the opposite.

Asking for support when we need it is incredibly brave and it shows true strength of character to admit when we can’t do something on our own. Often when we don’t get the support we need, this can affect not only our own mental health and wellbeing but also that of those around us. When we ask for support it creates better communication and stronger bonds between us and those around us.

So how do we change that chip?

• Journal about it without judgment: What do you struggle with? Are there certain things you struggle with asking for support more than other? How does it make you feel? How do you think asking for support will benefit you?
• Write down the names of those you feel you can rely on to help you. This could be friends, family, loved ones, co-workers, or even professionals.
• Communicate with your friends, loved ones, co-workers, etc., that you struggle with asking for support but you’d like to work on it and talk about ways they can help you.
• Start by asking help with small things like cleaning, cooking, etc.
• Notice the how it feels when you ask for help. Notice how it changes the dynamic when you work together with someone else.

Start small and build up. It’s not always an easy process (I’m speaking from personal experience here!), but the more we do it, the easier it gets.

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What do you struggle with most when asking for support?